At the deepest level, this invitation, like life itself, asks us to cultivate a kind of fearless receptivity. Welcome everything, push away nothing cannot be done solely as an act of will.
To welcome everything is an act of love. We all like to look good. We long to be seen as capable, strong, intelligent, sensitive, spiritual, or at least well adjusted. We project a positive self-image. My own experience of abuse allowed me to empathize with both the abused and the abuser, to help each find forgiveness for their anger and open toward their fear. It is not our expertise, but rather the wisdom gained from our own suffering, vulnerability, and healing that enables us to be of real assistance to others.
It is the exploration of our inner lives that facilitates us in forming an empathetic bridge from our experience to theirs. To be whole, we need to include, accept, and connect all parts of ourselves. We need acceptance of our convicting qualities and the seeming incongruity of our inner and outer worlds.
Wholeness does not mean perfection. It means no part left out. We often think of rest as something that will come to us when everything else in our lives is complete: We imagine that we can only find rest by changing our circumstances. The fourth principal teaches us that we can find a place of rest within us, without having to alter the conditions of our lives.
This place of rest is always available to us. We need only turn toward it. It is experienced when we bring our full attention, without distraction, to this moment, to this activity. With sincere practice, after some time, we can come to know this spaciousness as a regular part of our lives. It manifests as an aspect of us that is never sick, is not born, and does not die. Zen koans are stories, dialogues, or phrases meant to help us deal with our very human problems.
Koans often appear contradictory, but they are not intended as riddles or puzzles to be solved. Rather, they are meant to help us gain insight, freeing us up from our ordinary ways of seeing and knowing the world by propelling us toward our direct experience. Why should we seek to be ignorant? But this is not an encouragement to avoid knowledge.
It is receptive, ready to meet whatever shows up as it is. As we go about our day-to-day lives, we rely on our knowledge. We have confidence in our ability to think through problems, to figure things out. We are educated; we have training in specific subjects that permits us to do our jobs well. We accumulate information through experience, learning as we go. All this is helpful and necessary in moving through our lives smoothly. Ignorance is usually thought of as the absence of information, being unaware. It is beyond knowing and not knowing.
It is off the charts of our conventional ideas about knowledge and ignorance. It is free to discover. When we are filled with knowing, when our minds are made up, it narrows our vision, obscures our ability to see the whole picture, and limits our capacity to act. We only see what our knowing allows us to see. The wise person is both compassionate and humble and knows that she does not know.
These five principles have served me as reliable guides for coping with death. And, as it turns out, they are equally relevant guides to living a life of integrity. They can be applied just as aptly to people dealing with all sorts of transitions and crises—from a move to a new city, to the forming or releasing of an intimate relationship, to getting used to living without your children at home. To help you do that, we created a functional backpack with the everyday artist in mind. So Sorry, Jesse It's the kind of book that keeps you up late, trying to remember everything your grandparents ever told you about their stories.
It's the kind of book that puts you in awe of the Maker and MasterStoryteller- i I swallowed this one whole. It's the kind of book that puts you in awe of the Maker and MasterStoryteller- it's the best kind. View all 3 comments. Aug 30, Ivan rated it it was amazing Shelves: Wilson writes with Chestertonian joy. I'm devouring this book with rapturous exultation. Highly, highly recommend it!
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Few books have so moved me as this one. We are narrative creatures, and we need narrative nourishment—narrative catechisms. Man is born to trouble God tells stories that make Sunday school teachers sweat and mothers write their children permissions slips excusing them from encountering reality. Smile at its roar like a tree planted by cool water even when your branches groan, when your garden leaves are stripped and the frost bites deep, even when your grip on this earth is torn loose and you fall among mourning saplings.
Aug 26, Nick rated it it was amazing Shelves: Wilson is an artist pure and simple. I guess I could also say that he is a weaver because he takes images, themes, and stories and braids them together beautifully. Family stories, travel stories, existential reflections--all through the lens of life with God. I keep referring back to certain pages and lines. Several times I had a lump in my throat.
Wilson makes me wish that I did more to suck the marrow out of life and experience all that God has given me with wonder-filled eyes. This is the kind o Wilson is an artist pure and simple. This is the kind of book that I want to recommend to everyone I know. Nov 20, Heather rated it it was amazing. This is good stuff. I would even venture to say it surpasses tilt-a-whirl This book is a favorite of mine I try to read it every year. This time I listened the audio version and enjoyed it very much too. Nov 13, Aaron Fox rated it liked it. I must say that I really wanted to enjoy the book more than I ended up actually enjoying it.
Death by Living covers a topic that I think about fairly often that I hope you do too: Wilson has so many points I agree with in this book, but honestly I know Brandon and Megan will disagree , the 3 star rating has to come from the delivery. As in Notes From the Tilt-a-whirl, he uses the same, scattered writing style that I'm not too f I must say that I really wanted to enjoy the book more than I ended up actually enjoying it. As in Notes From the Tilt-a-whirl, he uses the same, scattered writing style that I'm not too fond of.
And while I have asked myself why I don't seem to be understanding Wilson the way he wants me to, I have come to the realization that it is not always my job. I am a fairly normal and educated person don't be deceived by the Pigeon Toady as my profile picture , and probably fit into Wilson's target demographic. For that reason I cannot blame myself, but I also do not blame the author as I know several people in my same demographic that just love his books.
Again, I really wanted to like this book.
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Wilson made many great points that ended up being muddled or lost in the confusing writing style. Mar 03, Joy C. I heard so much about this book online from friends, so when we went down to Sydney for a few days and I got to visit my favourite childhood bookstore, I was over the moon to find a copy of N. Wilson's book sitting quietly on the shelves. I began reading it promptly on returning home, and it was nothing like I expected it to be!
It was glorious and gut-wrenching and wonderful and just the kind of book I needed in that time of my life I think I'll always need a book like that, and I want to re I heard so much about this book online from friends, so when we went down to Sydney for a few days and I got to visit my favourite childhood bookstore, I was over the moon to find a copy of N. It was glorious and gut-wrenching and wonderful and just the kind of book I needed in that time of my life I think I'll always need a book like that, and I want to reread it again and again.
This book is beautiful in a grim and glorious way. It wrenches your heart with soul-pounding truths about life and heartfelt stories and the wonder of the Master Storyteller, it shakes you with the beauty and grief of life and faith, it makes you burst with laughter yes, you'll get stitches in your side! Aug 07, James Nance rated it it was amazing. Nate's words remind me to be thankful once more for the story that My Father is writing.
For my life, and my new life. For my lovely wife, and our fourfold love made flesh. For grass mowed too short in my enthusiasm, and for storm showers to heal it. For the smell of cookies freshly baked, and chocolate chips still melty. For Mom and Dad. Nate writes that one of his recurring childhood memories was the sound of breaking glass. I am honored that my car window was one of those, shattered by a bo Nate's words remind me to be thankful once more for the story that My Father is writing.
I am honored that my car window was one of those, shattered by a boy flinging rocks with a lacrosse stick.
I am thankful that he has found it better to fling words. Nov 20, Jeremy rated it really liked it Shelves: Very good continuation of Tilt. With this book, the focus is on a way of living, a way of receiving life" xi. Lots of humor and stories mixed in with theological insights, and all written very poetically.
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See excerpts here and here. Some critics of Wilson's style say that he overwrites, that he's trying too hard. Know the names of these critics? Yeah, neither do I. Nov 08, Paul rated it it was amazing Shelves: It gets better every time. Hearing it anew is good for my soul.
You don't owe these people anymore. You've given them everything. Living well is dying for others. More will come in the morning. September , November , June , May , January Sep 12, Charity rated it it was amazing. Such a beautiful read! Oct 04, Aaron Downs rated it it was amazing.
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It should be read quickly, slowly, all at once, and with many breaks between reading. His book is a story about stories; a look at the minuscule stories of each human being wrapped up into the Story of our Creator. In this story about stories, Wilson makes the reader feel diminutive and worthless, while at the s N. In this story about stories, Wilson makes the reader feel diminutive and worthless, while at the same time making the reader feel loved and precious. He brings perspective to our stories, weaving together the fairy tale elements of good and evil, joy and sorrow, and the fact that our story is really not our own simply because our story is made possible by the Story, eclipsing our narratives while at the same time making them visible.
This book is a book about living well and dying well. Death is living, because living means dying. Paradoxes left and right, but they seem to make sense while bringing utter confusion all at the same time. But Wilson gets it. Life is to be spent. Your heartbeats cannot be hoarded. Your reservoir of breaths is draining away. You have hands, blister them while you can.
You have bones, make them strain - they can carry nothing in the grave. You have lungs, let them spill with laughter. Oct 10, Scott rated it it was amazing. I loved Tilt-A-Whirl and have been anxiously waiting for this since I first heard about it several months ago. Wilson's writing does what only excellent writing can do: The type of writing that makes you forget that your pen which you customarily keep on your ear for note taking has been sitting there for hours.
There's no time f So good. There's no time for notes. Recapture the wonder of living in these few moments of life. Other than that, I have no other words, but simply "wow, yes - amazing. I wish there more books like this. I need more books like this. Jul 31, Jason rated it it was amazing.
I only give five stars to books that I love enough to want to read again, and by the end of the second chapter I knew this would be one of those books. Wilson begins with the same familiar ingredients used by countless Christian motivational speakers -- "life is a story," "death is inevitable," "let's make the most of the time that God grants to us" -- but manages to whip them into something entirely unexpected and awe-inspiring. His writing is the sort that drains highlighters or e-highlighter I only give five stars to books that I love enough to want to read again, and by the end of the second chapter I knew this would be one of those books.
His writing is the sort that drains highlighters or e-highlighters; I read it on an iPad: I'm deeply grateful for the book, and newly inspired to die living. Oct 04, Megan Lane rated it it was amazing Shelves: I'll be straight up: That doesn't mean I didn't like it, just that I didn't like it as much. But maybe that's just what a first love will do to you. I don't really have anything to say beyond that. It really was beautiful. Emotional, touching, inspiring, encouraging. Another wonderful Wilson book that will be a favorite, I believe.
Read by the word master himself. Hear I'll be straight up: Hearing these words had a different impact on me than expected, especially considering this is only the second or third audiobook I've ever listened to all the way through. All the hope and inspiration and honesty and realness. Feb 05, John rated it it was amazing. With only his second non-fiction book, Wilson has quickly become one of my favorite living authors.
A poet at heart, Wilson challenges us to reconsider life and death. Weaving lovely tales of ordinary life with his wife and children with heart-wrenching remembrances of his grandparents alongside philosophical reflections in a book that will cause you to chuckle on one page and tear up on the next.
Read this book because it will call you to the carpet for your lack of courage. Read it because it With only his second non-fiction book, Wilson has quickly become one of my favorite living authors. Read it because it will turn your eyes to the gifts that surround you daily. Read it because it will challenge the way you think about death. View all 4 comments. Nov 20, Michael rated it it was amazing Shelves: This is just like all of Nate's other Fairy Tales; its' loud, visceral, fast, honest, humble, convicting, full of sensory delights, death, resurrection, faith, hope, joy, feasting and love.
And just like all of Nate's other Fairy Tales; it's true. Second read in honor of Nate's surgery. I am proud of him and honored to have the chance to be edified by his words. Jesus always shows us why we should of had faith all along. Nov 09, Barnabas Piper rated it it was amazing.
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Wilson's non-fiction work is few and far between, but it's worth the wait. He is insightful and ingenious, equal parts poetic and pointed. He is blunt but also meandering. In the end the effect on the reader is expand the mind and heart of a bigger view of God and His world. Aug 05, Sydney Kirsch rated it it was amazing. First read in August Read again in March Five stars for always. Aug 22, April Thrush rated it did not like it.
I know it's harsh, but I couldn't bear reading this anymore. I now have a pet peeve that exists for a certain style of books that seems to be popular to publish now, and that is making a book out of something that should stay on your blog or journal, because that's how it reads. I also felt this way about gifts and did not want to finish that one either for the same reason. Sep 15, Logan Thune rated it it was amazing.
Up to this point in life, I do not recall a book that has made me laugh or cry more. Artistically refreshing and thoughtfully provoking. Live after the example of the Savior: Empty yourself, give, trust, laugh, love, cry—exhaust your life, leave nothing unspent, sacrifice, die, be planted, and then