Learn more about Amazon Prime. James was only five years old and travelling home to Devon after holiday with his family in Scotland in , when tragedy struck. The car was involved in a serious accident just outside Bristol, leaving him fighting for survival on life support. When he emerged from his coma, doctors discovered that he was seriously brain damaged, leaving the left side paralysed. Within the blink of an eye James had been transformed from a gregarious, fun-loving little boy into a rag doll.
But with a lot of loving support, he began the long and difficult road to recovery. His attitude was inspirational, and for years he threw himself into rehabilitation. As James grew up he began to feel misunderstood and not able to reach the level of normality he so yearned for. He felt that there was no longer any point to his life. When James asked his doctor for help, the reality of his situation suddenly struck.
Suicide would be the ultimate failure. This is the story of James' life and how he fought tooth and nail to stay alive. It is both his autobiography and a guide to personal development. Since making the conscious decision not to give up hope, James has gone on to travel the world and teach English abroad. James is open and honest about the things in which he has found great solace during his darkest hours, and he credits the teachings of Kabbalah, an increasingly popular form of Jewish mysticism, for helping him refocus his life. The singer Madonna, a long term exponent of the spiritual teaching, has been an inspirational figure for James.
I try to make it to the next day, and then the next. One step at a time. You can also use the phone help line on 22 I have used this number myself. The people who answer the phone are very understanding. They have helped me immensely. Keep posting here by all means, the option to start your own thread is there as well if you would like.
It's not childish at all. M the artist, first off i want to welcome you to the beyondblue forums, a place that is free of stigma and is a very protective place. I love your post, really do. The very fact that you are still with us on this big chunk of dirt and rock we call earth is great.
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The fact that went as far as writing a note but didn't proceed, I love to hear that because I am a firm believer that everyone who has walked in the shoes of mental health sufferers, can return to living again. I am not talking about just surviving, i am talking about actually living. I cannot force you to tell your partner, but have you considered that instead of burdening her, she may actually turn into your rock and help guide you through this journey that you are on?
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It helps so so much to talk about it and to get it out of the system and learn to cope with depression and anxiety, hence the questions about being treated. Keep posting, keep engaging with us and we will help guide you with what we have been through. I am recovering from PTSD, depression and anxiety. I also truly believe that suicide can be taken off the table as an option I got close enough to the edge the last time to know that faced with death I actually want to choose life I feel incredibly lucky because I never!
I hope I can inspire others to not give up trying to not give up, and it's fabulous to hear that other people also have positive results around their suicide and self-harm habits. Excellent post lucky, Heart felt Thankyou for posting this, I'll be suggesting a look at this to others too I've been meaning to come here for a while. Have some in place so far workin on the whole shebang. I'm going to read over your post because you put so many valid points in there.
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I''m not sure when but will be back to talk to you. My son made the decision to return to the big city this week as he felt too isolated here. I gave him a card with crisis line numbers and made him promise to use it if things turn pear shaped. We've spoken a few times since and his mood definitely seems calmer. He has apologised for his behaviour over the past month or so.
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We did talk about what went on before he left and he admits there are days where he has no recollection. I'm hoping he will feel more connected down south he has his dad there and know he has a good GP he plans to see. He has also mentioned rehab I also realise that 2 depressed and anxious people living in the same house doesn't make for a happy home environment! It's early days and I'm trying to get my own health back on track now, however I'll still worry from afar, as you do.
I'll do my best not to call him every day and ask how he's doing, I know he hates me worrying. To Luckyman, thank you for letting me into your life. Your story reminds me that even in darkness, one small action can turn a life around. I very much hope your days now are filled with love and light. Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones. Home Get support Online forums. Online forums Before you can post or reply in these forums, please complete your profile Complete your profile. Cancel The title field is required!
I first considered taking my life when I was 15 to escape from the fear and violence I was experiencing at home. When I was 17, my best friend from Primary School committed suicide. I saw firsthand what happens to those left behind and made me start to reconsider my own thoughts. Unfortunately it was not enough of a deterrent. At age 22, I attempted my own suicide because I felt guilty for moving out of home and leaving my mum alone with my violent father.
I felt that I had betrayed her and was not able to deal properly with those feelings at the time. Instead I just tried to get on with things and hoped it would all go away. I attempted to take my life again at the age of 35 after struggling with separation and losing my children from my daily life. After several hours of being unconscious, I came to and realised I was still alive. In that moment I picked up the phone and called Life Line. I spoke to a bloke for around 2 hours. Ultimately, it needed to come down to me and my will to help myself.
I began to open up to people about what I had been through. Unfortunately a couple of friends judged me and turned their backs. However that pain was short lived as I gained other people who seemed to come from nowhere to listen, support and rally around me.
I began to exercise and take care of myself. I got into a routine of sleeping and eating well and lowered my alcohol intake. Life has now begun to turn around. There is no shame in asking for help. You need to know that even in your darkest moments, your life has purpose and meaning and you are valuable to others. You belong here and whatever you feel is going wrong in your life is not a permanent thing. Moments come and go constantly, some are good, some not so good.
But none of them are ever permanent. The truth is they have passed and right now is a new moment for you to start over, ask for help and change your life. You owe it to yourself to do exactly that. Hi Luckyman, Welcome to beyondblue and thankyou for telling your story. I would welcome having you around the forums and sharing with others. I just want to quote a paragraph of what you said; "There is no shame in asking for help. I hope you can post back and stick around the forums: White Rose Community Champion.
Hi luckyman, Your post was very inspiring - in fact what I needed to hear and remind myself right now. Thank you very much for such a warm welcome I really appreciate it. Hi there Luckyman, I think you are so right, I figured this out 18 months ago, so it is kind of new as well, knowing what I do now 20 years ago could have saved so much strife.
I really appreciate this conversation. Hi Everyone, In my life I've had various times when I have thought suicide was the only way out of the pain, anguish and despair I was feeling so deeply and intensely. There are options beside considering that taking your own life is the only answer. I think that is true Luckyman. One thing through all our stories here, it seems when each of us is struggling to find hope there are other people who are there holding the hope for us and wanting to see us return.
There are a few things that make me different and can also be difficult. I think suicide is one of those things. I have learned there is value in life and that no matter how pointless it seems to give it time. To quote a movie, "Everything will be alright in the end. And if it is not allright, then trust me, it is not the end. Hi Luckyman and Rob, When a person is in those dark, confusing, lonely moments where suicide seems like the only option, it may be very hard to even acknowledge people do care. I like your movie quote Rob, that is spot on.
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Cheers all from Mrs. And if it is not allright , then trust me, it is not the end " , however this can be so hard to tell someone who is deperate and on the verge, only because they can't focus on what has just been said to them, so we have to divert their attention towards another issue that we know they were once interested in, and once a policeman said to me that once you have this person's attention then you have to keep talking to them and they could suggest talking about footy, shopping, kids or grandkids but the policeman has to figure out what has got their attention from any of these and then gain their confidence while they talk about what interests them.
This is what stopped me one time. Hi Geoff and Everyone, Like you mentioned Geoff, it is not always easy finding a way to break into the darkness, pain, loneliness and what ever else it is that a person feels when they are so depressed. I'm glad a policeman had that chat with you one day Geoff. Thanks again for sharing. Cheers to you, from Mrs. Suicidal thoughts or plans is a sign of desperation or a resolve.
That anyone can consider this act is truly sad. Yet statistics for suicide far outweigh the national road toll.
Has society given up on suicide in terms of reducing it? Perhaps it is too tough a gig. Who knows what approach is the best one with any particular individual as we are all different. I pose this question Who is the very best person to convince a suicidal person not to pursue their plan? A counsellor, GP, police, family member or other? Perhaps the answer is the person themselves? I had a conversation with a nurse once she said "I get angry with those that say they want to end it then they never do". My answer " clearly you have never been as desperate with your demons" Her beliefs on this topic is common but also unacceptable rubbish.
She is judging these poor souls as attention seeking, non serious people about their plight. It is indeed very serious!!! This is merely one example of the stigma surrounding suicide. Some regard the act or planning it as selfish. That's based on the theory that the troubled person isn't thinking about the others that could be left behind. First hand example is myself in My mum was better, but I was up to my eyeballs in debt and, to be honest, I had just had enough of living.
I didn't tell my mum about what almost happened until about a week later. I didn't want her to worry about me but I wasn't myself at all, so she knew something was up. In the end, she was warm and supportive, as I knew she would be. It felt good to confide in her. Most of the people close to me were really accepting — especially my mum, who has since become a massive LGBT ally.
At the same time though, coming out was a bittersweet experience. Getting diagnosed was only the beginning. I could see the time stretching out before me, which put me in a bit of a lonely place — but at least I knew what was making me feel this way. Instead, I started volunteering at a hospital in South London, before volunteering for a mental health charity in Camden for eight months.
It felt good to help other people in a similar situation to me. Then, one day in early , I heard about a walking group run by a local mental health charity in my area of North London and decided to try it out. It was actually incredible. Even though it was just a short route, walking with a small group of people going through similar stuff made me feel a lot less alone — and the exercise helped me feel better too. Plus the guy leading the group seemed so confident, which I found inspiring.
He had his life together in a way that I could only dream of.
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The more walks I went on, the more energy I gained. I would chat to our group leader and ended up getting to know him quite well, and eventually I started plotting out our routes with him. It was voluntary, of course, but I really enjoyed it. I could feel myself growing in confidence. The weekly walks had become my reason to get up in the morning. In April this year, the group leader told me he was moving on to another job. Can you imagine how happy I was? I said yes straight away — I had finally been given the opportunity to do something I really enjoyed, to help others with mental health problems, and, crucially, to get back into paid work.
Now I spend my week planning the routes, making sure they're different enough each time so they stay interesting. Things got even better at the end of last year because I finally started having my DBT treatment.